Rock n' Roll is the business of orphans. That's why we reinvent ourselves in fake last names/band names to replace our inherited surnames. Because to be a wild, drooling cretin you can't have the old war dragging behind you. It's the reason why we get dropped off around the corner or don't bring our uncles out to slam pits. It's not cool.
We all know the dichotomy of "Cool". "Cool" is a phenomenon of "Did you see that guy's haircut?" or "I became friends with Sarah because she walked into Chemistry class with a homemade Buzzcocks t-shirt." Cool is a currency to relate to one another but also decides where the circle of acceptance ends. It says things like "This isn't for everyone" or "We are now what you want to be, but aren't" which can be an intimidating thing.
"Inclusion", the bait on the hook of religion, family, popular dance music, etc , is the flip side. As human beings, inherently insecure, we are prey for acceptance. But this blanket inclusion, that does not ask anything from the individual, carries the price of conformity.
Rock bands have been the spokesman of youth and the flag ship of cool for the past 50 or so years. The more concentrated you get; Rock n' Roll narrowing to punk, Punk narrowing to the DIY scene; the, presumably, more steeped in cult behavior things become: coded symbols, eating garbage, fringe ethics; the more the circle of acceptance is tightened.
It is here that Delay* lives.
My favorite thing about them is, in contrast to this theory, they are an inclusive band; yet they are not sanitized, bland, pretentious, insulting moralizing, or safe. They understand the currency of "Cool" as a tool used to unite a network of friends to foster support in a community where people are able to engage in positive positive projects directly, or in other words: "Be a part of what we are doing and we want to be a part of what you are doing as well" The feeling is that this community should be available to everyone.
I suppose this is a result of starting a band when you're 13 because Delay carries with them a familial vibe in which it is hard to separate the band from their circle of friends. It's also a vibe that makes it a natural act for a member to read a letter from his Grandmother on stage (She heard a Foo Fighters song on the radio and didn't understand their appeal over Delay) or also the vibe that makes another member bop around at a show playing "air guitar" to a band; a terribly uncool move because usually it comes off as needy emulation (or confused mockery?) of the person 4 feet from you. In this case the wide smile and, because of the amount and frequency the knees bent made it come off as "Hey! Check this out, this is kinda funny - wait, how about this? Ha ha" Your family doesn't really care about how weird you are. It's this sort of effort to relate that washes away the stoic mistakes of "Cool", Rock n' Roll, and in a large sense oppressive American culture, in lieu of saying "This is where we are going now and this is how we want to treat each other"
*Delay is a moniker given to a musical group. 2 of the 3 members are brothers who share the same face. 2 of the 3 members have the same haircut and share no genetic material.
They play the kind of pop punk that has buzzsaw guitars and tries to perfect the same song over and over. Recently they switched from 45 rpms to 33 rpms.
Mark Novotny, The Fury zine